“I was first exposed to pornography at a young age and began watching it frequently in my mid to late teens. It was something that I kept mostly secret, except to friends who were involved in their own forms of sexual exploitation and seemed to normalize the behavior. After sometime, my pornography watching escalated into visiting massage parlors and prostitutes / escorts to indulge in sexual desires and fantasies; this I kept hidden from everyone. Looking back on it, there was a bit of a dichotomy that existed. On one hand, I thought this wasn’t a problem and that I could stop these behaviors at any time if I really wanted to, but on the other hand I felt hopeless, stuck and that there was no way to get out of this.
Subsequently, partly spurred by seeing a friend make a change in his life, I decided that I had to start be completely honest with myself and others whom I cared form. At this time I knew I needed help and sought out Cheryl. It was very challenging to disclose what I was doing to her, because I had been keeping a secret so well for so many years and felt so much shame. However, Cheryl made this process much easier with her warmth, understanding and compassion.
Aside from this, the person that I opened up to first was the one who I was hurting the most, my wife at the time. She made the decision to leave the relationship and I made the decision to continue counseling. It was very hard to separate from her, but opening up to her and continuing therapy was one of the best decisions I’ve made in my life. Sessions have not always been easy, and Cheryl has had such great insight as to when she needed to challenge me and when she needed to ease back. With her I have felt safe, supported, respected and empowered with the courage to examine my addictive / compulsive behaviors and change and grow. I can’t say enough about her abilities as a Life Coach.
In conclusion, I no longer watch pornography, visit massage parlors / prostitutes or indulge in any type of behaviors or compulsions related to the sexual exploitation of another human being. I’m still triggered at times, but through therapy and self examination, the triggers have become MUCH LESS powerful, and I’m able to confidently cope and navigate through them. I continue to grow, and work on seeing women as human beings who have worth far beyond just gratifying some fantasy or desire. I have had to step up and take ownership of my own psychological and emotional challenges, instead of projecting them onto others. Again, this is not always easy and is an ongoing process, but even with the loss of my marriage, I feel so much better being free of the sexual behaviors / compulsions that haunted me for so long. And for this, I’m so grateful to Cheryl, and to the entire process of recovery and of healing!”
"Cheryl has a soft voice that is comforting; so when I were to cry she said it's alright go ahead and let the healing begin of the grieving. While I talked with Cheryl Wheeler, each week for an hour; I was finally able to pull myself together with all confidence to hold my head up n truly appreciate the grieving process. She helped me through all the grieving stages. With her admirable experience and knowledge and rewarding talents and the exceptional gifts from God, she made me a whole new woman with a brighter look at life. Thank you very much Cheryl Wheeler. With all my coaching sessions, I highly recommend her for anyone. You can count on her, she will be there for you, not for the paychecks. She has helped many people n very much so deep down cares for them. Give her a call n make appointment with her."
"Cheryl's patience and compassion know no bounds...I have never met someone that is so incredibly nonjudgmental...she will pick you up right where you are, and begin to lead you out into the light...no matter how painful your situation may be, it isn't in her to add to that pain...Cheryl is about empowerment and grace and wisdom...totally trustworthy..."
" I had a wonderful business coaching session with Cheryl today! I came away with many ideas and insights. Thank you Cheryl!"
"Cheryl has an incredibly warm and inviting spirit and meets every encounter with a smile. Cheryl calls upon her teachings with Pea Melody as well as other scholars and brings this wealth of knowledge to each coaching session. She allows you to guide your own experience while lending a gentle hand to give you the tools you need to be successful. Cheryl is and will always be considered an extension of our family."
"Cheryl Wheeler is one of the most compassionate humans I've ever met and had a personal experience with!! You can look up her resume and for all those peeps that seek put professionals with degrees... well she has it! Yet she has a huge heart and world of knowledge in alternative ways of thinking as well.
This woman is a great resource!! please consider her if you need to work shit out! she is tremendously helpful!